Tuesday, July 27, 2010

The Good Christian Girl: A Fable | Christianity Today | A Magazine of Evangelical Conviction

An Article by Gina R. Dalfonzo from Christianity Today:

Once there was a good Christian girl who dreamed of growing up, getting married, and having children. She read all the right books and did all the right things. She read about how she was a princess in God's sight and how he wanted the very best for her. She committed herself to sexual purity, to high standards, and to waiting for the good Christian man that God was going to bring her. 
Just as she was getting old enough to start dating, however, she noticed something. Some of the popular Christian books were talking about not dating at all, and just being friends, until God had made it clear that the guy she liked was exactly the right one for her. Her Sunday school teachers taught from a very popular book about how dating was unbiblical, and how a truly righteous young Christian man would initiate a courtship with marriage as the goal, working in tandem with the girl's father and the pastor and others in the church body. 
The heroine of our story observed that as these things were being taught, the level of romantic involvement among her peers at church, not very high to begin with, shrank to practically nonexistent. 
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What do you think?

Just to clear any misconceptions and misunderstandings, I thought I'd put my stand here. First, I don't believe in dating (therefore I believe in waiting :D). Second, I believe in keeping myself pure, and I believe in setting high standards that are God-glorifying.

I posted the article, not because I agree with the whole of it, but because I think there's an important lesson we can learn from it. Yes, the article focuses on dating and relationships, but if we look at the big picture, I think there's something else we can learn as well. It's not so much as finding your future mate as it is seeking godly advice.

Sometimes, we tend to listen and do what other people want us to do, forgetting that it is God we should follow and obey first and foremost of all. Yes, God sometimes speaks to us through the people around us, but we should check things first if the advice they are give is from Him and not a personal opinion. Sometimes, we follow what other people tell us to do to please them, forgetting that we must first please God.

We must remember—God's ways are not our way. The wisdom of man is nothing compared to the wisdom of God. Before we seek advice from other people, let us first go to God and ask Him to lead us to do His will.